Most widely affected aspect is the parent child relationship. This is one of the biggest pillar required for the child to grow up in a better mindset. Everyone knows about this but still everyone feels the lack of some or other thing when they see other parents or children’s.
Why do you think this feeling of lacking something occurs? Is it the child’s fault? The parents fault? Or both?
First of all, there is no need to compare yourself with others. This is explained well in my article Comparison! Is it necessary. Everyone is not of same capabilities or power to be compared. Everyone have their own abilities and way of responding differently with respect to different situations.
This has to be understood by the parents before making any move towards their children. You may feel the lack of confidence or interest in your child, but it’s all because of you. Yes most of the parents are responsible for the situation their children are in.
If the child is lying, the parent is too strict. Being strict is ok but too strictness will make the child loose courage of speaking the truth in order to escape from burden and risks.
If the child is shy, the parent is trying to correct the child in front of others. This is the mistake parents do. Correcting the child when they are wrong is an effective measure to improve but doing in front of other people will make them loose their confidence and feel shy.
Also if the child is jealous of someone, the parents are trying to compare with others which will make the child to feel the lack of something in him/her and induce jealousy.
When a child is afraid of taking any new step, the parents are helping them very soon even before they start to try. This will only make them coward and loose hope on themselves.
Children if not happy with what they have, it’s because parents have bought them everything and even before they asked for. They won’t realise the value of money and hard work.
And when the child is too naughty, it’s because the parents have spoon fed the child. This will not make them realise their mistake and will always feel superior than others.
Everything depends on how parents treat when the child is small and the environment it grows. When a plant is grown in darkness, the result of growth is very less compared to the one that grows full fledged in open environment. The mind of children is similar to that of plant.
Similar is the growth of children. If you want your child to be courageous, confident and better person, help them but not too often. Let them face their fears. Buy things only if truly necessary. Never compare them with others but in fact let them work on their own mindset.
This will make them induce new ideas of learning and improving. Help them with new challenges and solutions. Be gentle and not too strict. Make them understand the situation with your better words and not with your harsh actions.
Children take time to learn, but when they do, they will keep it in their mind forever. Be a good friend to your child, support them and nurture them like the sunlight and manure for the plants to grow.
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